Gents Stand Up!

                                                                   Gents Stand Up!

 Sometimes I feel like if I don't get married soon my body is going to split in two. (dramatic I know)
Why is this?

 I have an amazing relationship with Christ, two awesome parents, great family and friends, and a bright future.

I student teach, go to school in the night and save the world on the weekends. (just kidding)

I feel super independent without a man and super strong carrying my own groceries eight blocks from the supermarket to my building. (A little too strong, my back aches as I write this)

With all the super independent career women in the world you cant erase the need that is buried deep but still present( for a man's voice, touch, presence.)

Honestly, no matter how independent a woman says she is all women need One man to care for them, to cherish them and only them. It only takes One. The right One. To get it right the first time.

All women need a supporting shoulder to lean on, to cry on, to hold on to in hysterical laughter,  to touch and know its there to stay, its granite and its real. To know this manly shoulder is not going anywhere. i repeat myself it is here to stay.

I'm not on a search for the sexiest man, the best in bed. I'm not thirsty for hot guys to date. I'm not on a hungry trail to fill up my Saturdays with the guy of the week because the girls on Sex in the City make it look cool.

There is only One man I wait for. One man that I want to support me, who understands me like no other man on this planet can, I need that One man who gets me.

Going on a scavenger hunt, swinging from one guy to the next guy will not attract him to me.

I believe that there is One man who was put on this Earth to hold my hand and say " Don't worry Camille, ( cute pet name goes here) I'm right here. Follow me. "

And I will. I will follow him to the ends of the Earth. (there are none. Just a figure of speech)

I will trust this One man, (not two three, four five) just one for a lifetime. Divorce is not an option.

I will follow him because he will be a true leader. Not a fake substitute. ( sounds harsh but I'm serious)
I will follow him where ever he goes, where ever he wants to take me. I will never let go of his hand because I know and I'm familiar with the destination UP.

So Men that's what all women really want. A man they are sure about. Confident about. A man they can fall in love with Again, Again, Again and Again. The love never dies because it is not based on superficial things but is sealed with God's hand of approval.

Women want a man they can fly with not crash and burn with. But in order for her to hold your hand and never let go she has to know you two are going in the same direction and pray fully that direction is UP.

In order for her to trust you, you have to be Trustworthy. In order for her to have all respect for you you have to be Respectable. In order for her to Honor you like a queen honors a pharaoh/ like a princess honors a sultan/ citizen honors a dignitary/church honors a pastor :
you have to Be Honorable.

You cant show your butt (showing underwear is practically like mooning)
to a woman and then expect her to stop and listen to what you have to say.

You can't create children out of wedlock, make excuses for it and expect a woman to trust you.

You cant be incarcerated for not listening to authorities and expect a woman to listen to you.

You can't disrespect a woman by calling her out her name and expect her to have respect for you.

You cant ignore her phone calls for days and then expect her to be available when you call.

You cant lie to her face and then expect her to be honest with you.

You cant compare her to another woman and then expect her to celebrate you.

You cant expect men to treat your daughter like a princess if all her life you mistreated her mother/ other women.

You cant expect your son to be a man if you didn't show him how to Be ONe.

You cant expect a good stable long lasting marriage if you don't know WHO YOU ARE IN CHRIST.

I feel like I am bashing men. But I'm not. I hate to do that because there are so many good ones out there. But for those that are trying to fit in and look cool and bag females, look to the who created you. In order to get the best you have to be the best. No expectations. All of us have work to do.

A good man says "There are no excuses."
. A godly man triumphs over all hardships/setbacks/mistakes/failures and
eats them for breakfast. He hasn't the time to dwell on them. He has work to do. ( Mine is one of those heh heh)

So stop looking for a "supermodel chick" when the girl next door, that's just it! Is right next door..

She may not be super fabulous, super sexy, super hot, look madd good ( by the World's Standards) but she is super Saved she has super Vision, super Destiny, super Substance, super Loyalty, super Gentleness, super Kindness, super Humility, super Self- Control, super Purity.  (and so on I can go forever with this lol)

She won't cheat on you, she wont ruin your credit, you wont try to look smarter than you and make you feel less than a man because she has been saving herself for you. Stop going by the World's Standards of what your wife should look like, sound like, dress like, how gangsta she is.
( Basketball Wives anyone?) Go by God's standards.

There is a handbook he created just for you. ( 1 Corinthians)

STAND UP MEN! STAND UP MEN OF GOD!!


Be the men that you where created to be. Leaders, not followers. Gentle with the womenfolk. ( goes for grannies on the train, little girls running past you making you miss a bus, females that you are not dating included). Leaders not followers, righteous, upstanding, ( meaning refraining from speaking bad language when a lady enters a room. Even though you shouldn't be speaking like that anyway! ( Mama Camille lol). Men that are loyal ( stop cheating ! yes looking is cheating if you are lusting after and while you are looking!) Men that are strong towers of Morality ( stop saying you are a Good Guy, good guys DO the right thing. You know right from wrong.) Men that wont fall under pressure but will be cornerstones for Christ. Need I say more?

Where you at Men? ( Where for art thou Gents?)

I see you. Stop hiding under those clothes, you're better than that. You're too handsome to be a statistic. You're too handsome to speak that way, to settle, to just exist....

Don't be afraid to stand outside the crowd.
There are two kinds of guys out there. Godly guys ( true authentic gems, priceless)
and ungodly guys ( who make excuses, a penny's worth)

Which one are you?

Your sons are following your footsteps which man will they follow?